With Women’s Day in sight (observed on 8th March), Celina Jaitley, former Bollywood actress, expressed on Instagram the utter disappointment she felt after posting a photo with her newborn twin sons. In the post she mentions that she was brutally judged, slut shamed, and trolled for posting a photo of her in a bikini, holding her twins.
She wrote in the caption, “This was the most trolled photograph of me with my one-month-old twin boys on the internet when it was first posted. While the bikini had a lot to do with the trolling I remember I was attacked for placing one of my love cakes ( Baby Winston) next to me and not holding him in my arms. I was called everything from being a witch to being a w#@re to being inconsiderate and whatnot.”
Although not all the mothers in the world are as famous and hence as discussed online as Jaitely, the palpitations before posting about our pregnancy or our kids online are all too familiar. Ridicule and trolling is not a thing isolated to the uber-famous. All of us have experienced just how harsh, judgemental, and inconsiderate certain parts of society can be.
“I was judged, trolled, and called names for wearing a swimsuit (At a swimming pool by the way). No one once thought of showing any consideration. I was being shamed for being a human, for not losing my identity just because I became a mother, for my mothering skills which did not fit in with preconceived expectations,” she added.
While the onus of a safe space does not lie on those being judged unnecessarily, it is still important to consider the mental health impact of announcing your pregnancy or posting your kids online. This can help you be prepared before sharing your happiness and joy with the world, and be free from the fear of judgement.
Managing Expectations and Judgment
Social media can be a breeding ground for comparison and judgment, especially when it comes to parenting. Before sharing pregnancy announcements or child photos, be prepared for varying reactions from your online community. While many may offer congratulations and support, others may express unsolicited opinions or criticism. It's essential to have a strong sense of self and confidence in your parenting decisions to navigate these potential challenges effectively.
Protecting Your Child's Autonomy
When posting about your child on social media, it's easy to forget that they are individuals with their own identities and futures. Every photo and anecdote shared contributes to their digital footprint, which can have long-term consequences as they grow older. Consider how your child may feel about the content you're sharing when they're old enough to understand and navigate social media themselves. Striking a balance between sharing precious moments and respecting your child's autonomy is key to promoting healthy digital habits from a young age.
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Respecting Boundaries and Privacy
One of the most important considerations when sharing pregnancy announcements and child photos on social media is respecting boundaries and privacy. While it may be exciting to share such news with your online community, it's essential to remember that not everyone may feel comfortable with such public disclosures. Before posting, have open discussions with your partner and family members about what information and images are okay to share and what should remain private.
Prioritising Well-being Over Validation
While the likes and comments on a social media post can feel validating, it's important not to prioritise online approval over your and your child's well-being. Take breaks from social media if you find yourself feeling overwhelmed or anxious about sharing aspects of your life online. Remember that real connections and support from loved ones offline are just as valuable, if not more so, than virtual validation.
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In the caption, Jaitely concluded that one advice that helped her get through all the trolling is that she must focus on reclaiming her power and courage in a culture of shame. “If people are trying to bring you down, it only means that you are above them, don’t let anyone tell you to tone down your authentic self,” she added.
Sharing pregnancy announcements and child photos on social media can be a joyful way to celebrate milestones and connect with others. However, it's crucial to approach such sharing with mindfulness and consideration for both your mental health and that of your child. By respecting boundaries, protecting your child's autonomy, managing expectations, and prioritising well-being, you can navigate social media in a way that enriches rather than detracts from your parenting journey.